Will you be an invisible mom?
Look back at the last months pictures that you have taken. I would be willing to bet a chai latte that you have done a great job documenting your children’s cuteness and activities. But where are you mom? If you were there and a part of the memory, you should also be in front of the lens for at least one of those pictures.
I know there are a million reasons why you aren’t. Some of which are:
* I’ve been wearing these same clothes for three days straight.
* My hair is a mess.
* I didn’t have time to put make-up on this morning.
* I feel fat today.
* I will miss something if I try to jump in.
* There is no one else here to take OUR picture.
* Etc. Etc. Etc.
A day in the life of a young mother often resembles an episode of survivor. There’s a thousand little needs and one mommy to meet all of them. In the midst of diaper changes, laundry, dishes, and cuddles, memories are being made. Most moms have easy access to a smart phone these days to document all the smiles, the messes, first steps, and sleeping babies.
Although it seems a far way off, one day your children will grow up and want to see pictures of themselves. The question is whether they will see their momma in those memories. Even the battle weary momma that was in the trenches on their behalf. They may or may not notice the dark circles under your eyes from sleepless nights spent rocking them while they were colicky, sick, or teething. I promise you that they will want to see you, with them, in those memories.
They will grow up and want to take walks down memory lane with you, with their significant others and one day with their own children. They won’t notice that you were wearing those same yoga pants in every picture from the year when they were two and their baby sister was born. They will see life, and love, and hopefully their loving mother.
So the next time you grab that phone or camera to snap a picture of something you don’t want to forget, jump in. You won’t regret giving your children the gift of your presence in photos.
Awww that’s so tRue! I realy push myself to get in front of the camera, lots of selfies, lol. I also do at least 1, sometimes 2 family sessions a year. Love snuggling my babies! Thanks for this post 🙂
I could’t agree more. mother and child photographs are the most special. They are the ones I love seeing as an adult. often as we grow up we look more like our mothers, act more like our mothers, it is only then we wish we have more photographs to look back on!
So very true. I wish I had the time back that I could redo having more images with my babies. Great ADVICE!!
What a great blog post!!
I sooooo needed to hear this!! I am so guilty of Invisible mom syndrome. You are RIGHT!!!! Thank you for reminding us to get in the shot!!!!!
nO TRUER WORDS… THEY LOVE YOU AND WILL APPRECIATE THE SMILE YOU WEAR AND THE ARMS YOU HOLD THEM WITH
What a wonderful blog post. Everything you stated is so true, I’m really guilty of being an invisible Mother. Thank you for this post, it really got me thinking.